Suicide in Downey

Back Door Crime Scene TapeAmong the reasons you don’t want to get sent home from work early on a Monday morning are that someone packed a suitcase, brought it to the back entrance of your office building, sat down on it, and proceeded to put a bullet in his head something like 50 feet from your desk.

That’s what just happened to my friend who sent me this picture from his office building in Downey. People at his work speculated that it was a disgruntled ex-employee [update: there are indications he most likely was not], but there’s no real information. [Further update: this definitely wasn’t a disgruntled employee incident, and the address of the building has been redacted due to a request by the occupant.] I’m using the occasion to remind the rest of you that there are resources available should you feel desperate enough to contemplate suicide. You can call the National Suicide Prevention lifeline: 800-273-8255 or use LA Counties’ Department of Mental Health site to find a provider near you. Regardless of your insurance status, if you walk into the emergency room of any hospital and tell them that you want to kill yourself, you will get treatment. However limited our public health options may be, they are preferable to the “permanent solution to a temporary problem” that is suicide. Hang in there, people. Whatever you’re dealing with, it will eventually change, and killing yourself will break the hearts of the people who love you.

10 Replies to “Suicide in Downey”

  1. Thank you for this, Travis. I can bet this wasn’t an easy post for her to make or for anyone to read, but that’s why it’s so important to remind all of us that help is available — and you don’t have to be at the stage where you’re ready to put pills in your system or a gun to your head. If you’re even simply thinking about killing yourself, think about talking to someone. You’d be amazed how helpful getting your pain off your chest and into someone’s ear can be.

    And if you know of someone who even in the most off-handed or flippant way is talking about killing themselves, don’t be so ready to dismiss such statements as meaningless. Let them know you’re concerned and how important they are to you and how ready you and others are to help them get through whatever difficulties they are facing.

    In addition to the resources Travis listed, there’s the Los Angeles Suicide Prevention Center at 877/7-CRISIS (877/727-4747). It’s based out of the Did Hirsch Mental Health Services Center in Culver City:

    http://www.didihirsch.org/services/emergency/spc

  2. Such a shame. I lament that anyone should be so lacking in hope that this option would appeal, and at the same time can’t help but be a little sickened at how incredibly self-centered it is to commit such an act.

  3. Chris, you nailed it. I have sorrow for the persons who see no other option than to destroy themselves, but the bulk of my prayers and sympathies go to the survivors of suicides, be they immediate family, friends, acquaintances or in the particular case of Travis’ friend just a person 50 feet away from the site of such a selfish act.

  4. This person was my friend. He served his country. He had a kind heart and was a wonderful man. May he rest in peace.

    To those that say this was a selfish act; you have no idea what he was feeling or going through. I do not believe that suicide is the answer. But why don’t we pray for his soul instead of criticizing him and those that find themselves in such desperation.

    1. To Ana, thank-you, those are kind and truthful words.. I too -am against suicide..but NO ONE knows what goes on in the minds of someone at that stage of thier life!! I do blame myself that I didn’t see this coming. But please believe me, I had no idea.and I’m so sorry…

    2. I understand Ana taking offense at my seeming callous statement of suicide being a selfish act. It was not meant as criticism of the deceased directly, just a statement of fact.

      As I said, I feel sorrow for the man. In no way do I pretend to know what drove him to make such a horrible final choice, but I do know there are people in the wake of his self-destruction who because of that decision to kill himself will now be saddled with guilt and grief for the rest of their lives.

  5. Dotty
    You cannot blame yourself. I’m sure nobody expected this. Just know that he loved you so much. He was truly a kind and gentle man. He will be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with you. And may his soul be at peace.
    Ana

  6. He Too Was a very good Friend of mine, and I am sad that he cpuld not confide in anyone,. I knew him very well. and , am still beside myself, Especially the way he ended his Life, This is Something I would of never expected from him. I will pray for his Soul. ..And Hope he finds Happiness and Peace in Heaven…..

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