I got an interesting email the other day from a long time friend whose son Jack is turning 13 at the end of the week. His Mom is Sarbal who comments here from time to time. She wants to put together a “Calimitzvah” book for him on life lessons as part of his birthday celebration.
Pretty cool idea. I’m partly stumped on what to put together for him. I’ve known Jack since almost the time he entered this world. He’s a smart kid, certainly smarter than he realizes. Like a lot of kids he’d prefer to do what is needed to pass, his parents hold him accountable for reaching his potential. There isn’t much he wants for, but little has been handed to him. His parents are many ways like my family, its more about giving them life experiences than crap that will just sit in a corner. Jack’s Dad has taken him to Coachella a couple of times already on top of the travel. He wants for little when it comes to life experiences with his Mom or Dad. What else can I add for him?
Sarbal’s message earlier this week: “Jack marks the entry into his teenage years on Friday, August 22nd. To help celebrate this momentous occasion, Mike and I need your help.
We are asking each of you to email, or snail mail (if you prefer), 13 pieces of advice or life lessons for him to reference in the years ahead. They can be whatever you’d like: one liners, serious items, quips, pet peeves, do’s and don’ts, health and nutrition, political advice,, the Ten Commandments, the only limit is your imagination.
I am going to put them all together in a moleskin book for him to keep. We’ll call this his Calimitzvah book – lessons on becoming a man. A tradition you get from your loved ones at age 13.”
My thoughts are more one liners, but what else can I add? Jack does have a sense of humor so I can get snarky too, but some of it has to be serious.
- if you have to ask for respect you haven’t earned it
- follow the path of greatest curiosity
- from Eleanor Roosevelt “Every day do something that scares you”
- learn something new every day
- start each day with the intention of being a messenger of peace
- opposites attract, like-minded drive each others nuts trying to be on top
- moderation is the key to everything
- keep a white sock tucked between the mattress for those times you can’t get to the bathroom
- keep the emotions in check, think before acting on impulse
- better the doorman than the doormat
- just surviving isn’t living
Your suggestions? I think it is a pretty nifty idea to give a young man in So Cal his own set of life lessons to take with him into adulthood here in LA?