You know how I know you’re gay?

gay.jpgBecause you can’t use eHarmony for your online hookups.

Scientific American reports that a potential class action lawsuit was filed in Los Angeles Superior Court by a lesbian who couldn’t find a “women seeking women” or “man seeking man” option on the matchmaking website. The suit would be on behalf of all gay men and women who have been denied service by the site that was created by conservative Christian Dr. Neil Clark Warren (he’s the guy on the TV commercials).

eHarmony claims that its “first relationship service on the Web to use a scientific approach to match highly compatible singles”, requiring users to answer 436 questions to determine “29 Key Dimensions of Compatibility necessary for success in a long term relationship.”

Commenting in the past on eHarmony’s gay and lesbian policy, Warren has said that he does not know the dynamics of same-sex relationships but he expects the principles to be different.

Well, maybe he has a point. I’m guessing a tolerance for neighbors with lifestyles other than your own isn’t one of the 29 key dimensions necessary for a long term relationship.

However, why should a private company be sued if it wants to follow the religious beliefs of it’s founder who clearly prefers that homosexuals be promiscuous? My prediction: this lawsuit will be dismissed without a settlement, and eHarmony will come around in ten years or so… if they’re still around.

On a side note, at 7pm tonight the “10th Annual Walk Against Hate” kicks off Gay Pride Week in West Hollywood… fully deserving of a different post, but in the meantime you can read more here.

…h/t Digg member FelixdaaHack… image from “40 Year Old Virgin” ¬© 2005 Universal Pictures…

9 Replies to “You know how I know you’re gay?”

  1. Eharmony’s policy of not providing hook-ups to gays and lesbians is well known, as well as their preference for hooking up like-minded Christians (a majority of their successful match-ups are Christian).

    After watching many of their commercials, I began to wonder if they even pair people from different ethnicities. Look carefully the next time you watch their commercials and you’ll see Asians (of the appropriate nationalities) with Asians, Blacks with Blacks and White with Whites, etc… I prefer to be race-neutral in my dating, I have often wondered what kind of person eharmony would try to pair me with.

    Seems their “scientific approach” is matching Christians that are just like each other, and straight.

  2. “After watching many of their commercials, I began to wonder if they even pair people from different ethnicities. ”

    Interracial relationship are rare to begin with. Only 5% of all marriages are interracial.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miscegenation#In_the_United_States

    “follow the religious beliefs of it’s founder who clearly prefers that homosexuals be promiscuous? ”

    Don’t be stupid and slanderous. When did he ever say that gays are promiscuous?

    People shouldn’t be naive and assume gay/lesbian relationships are constituted similarly to heterosexual ones. If e-harmony only tested for straight relationsips, then gays/lesbians should consider it a blessing that that kind of bias is not interfering with matches. Plus there are tons of gay-only dating sites like Manhunt and Adam4Adam. Should they be sued too?

  3. This seems as absurd as suing a Mexican restaurant for not serving sushi. What am I not getting?

    Thanks for the tip about the Christian-ness of eHarmony, tho’. Yet another reason to resist my (Christian) mother’s attempts to get my (atheist) self to sign up. :-)

    Dan

  4. I totally agree with Dan. It’s like going to a gay matchmaking website and getting upset that there’s no heterosexual options.

    Sirirusly…

    Whoops. Harry Potter fever is kicking in.

  5. I’m not sure that a private business has to be compelled to offer a service to you. I doubt I can sue the Cadillac dealer for refusing to service my Toyota.

    eHarmony is clearly in the business of heterosexual relationships. To attempt to make them due otherwise is silly – moral convictions aside, it’s not their business model.

    On the other hand, if someone wants to reverse engineer their stuff, and make a gay and lesbian life partner dating site (as opposed to hook-ups) well, apparently there is a market.

  6. It’s like going to a gay matchmaking website and getting upset that there’s no heterosexual options.

    Exactly.

    As a lesbian, I could honestly care less that eHarmony has chosen to excludes queers in their online dating service.

    It’s not like there are plenty of gay/lesbian dating services out there.

    This womyn is a fucking idiot.

  7. For what it’s worth, I’m not Christian and have had some success with eHarmony. I had no problem excluding Christians from my matches, and you can totally change the age range they feed you now. (Thank goodness, ’cause I’m not into older guys.) :)

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